parenting

On His Way

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This child, well… isn’t a child anymore. He’s on his way to college in the fall. We’re so proud of him.  

Weathering

Again with the coffee shots. . . 

I find myself this afternoon, after a night of nearly no sleep, at one of our favorite coffee places. I’m frantically catching up on customer support requests and monitoring weather reports. The Oregon Coast endured quite a blow last night that knocked out our power and internet this afternoon. We’re over-caffeinated and praying for a quick restoration.

I spent part of my morning at coffee with a dear friend, planning our church’s Christmas pageant. I love little kids in angel costumes, I get giddy at the idea. It’s more than the caffeine, folks, it’s the reality that the light of the World is about to make an entrance once again.

And not a moment too soon. . . the world is blowing up. Sometimes the news looks like one long prayer request. Creator of the Universe, please bring peace. Soon. 

Closer to home, my family is gently walking the road of loss, as we cope with the news that Geo’s grandma Helen  “went to be with Jesus”  last night. We are remembering and smiling and shedding tears. From a parenting perspective, this is the first major loss my child has to had to face — so we’re listening more than talking. Creating space to mourn. You’re never really done parenting, are you?

So, I’ll wrap this up. As other people will want to take my seat shortly. Trying to connect with their families and work and lives outside of this wind whipped coast. I hope that this post finds your family well. For us, we are safe and together, and for that I am thankful.

May the light of the world find you as you gather with your family and friends this week. 

Remember

Almost 3 in a homemade costume

Historically, Halloween is big business in our home. Our house all decked out in purple lights and spider webs. Homemade costumes obsessed over for weeks. Hard-core negotiations over candy in the supermarket holiday aisle.

However, last year found us in a hotel. This year, throwing around references to gopher wood and Noah’s Ark as the rain comes down in relentless sheets. While our weather is nothing like the images being broadcast of the wreckage of Sandy (we’re praying for you East Coast) this constant downpour has my kid retreating to  a youth group candy pot-luck and me considering turning off our lights tomorrow and munching on candy in front of a roaring fire.

Despite the change in plans, there is still the issue of a costume. Going to a church function puts a real crimp in any ghoulish ideas he might have entertained. I say might, because he recently told me, “Oh, I’ve outgrown the desire to scare people on Halloween.” Yay?!

And being nearly 16 creates a whole different dynamic to the costume considerations. Gone are the years when I could say, “Look at the great costume I made you, don’t you want to be a spider?!”  Now I have to find a subtle way of suggesting that the best way to combat your “I’m a science geek prodigy” reputation, is to go BIG. Make fun of yourself. Be silly. But no LARPing costumes. 

That would be weird. 

We’ve settled on something. I hope he’ll go, have a good time, and not obsess too much on how people react to his costume. I pray the other kids get his joke and are kind, because historically they’re not so good at either of those things. And I hold my breath against the impending tidal-wave of emotions that come with parenting a child nearly grown and gone. Gone, too, are the days without a thought or care of an empty nest. Or, if the thought did come, it was in relief. Then I’ll sleep. Then we’ll be alone. 

Because now it is. . . we’re nearly there.

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Camping With This Kid

Things that make me smile: One last camping trip to close out the season. 

Take Your Son to Work Day

Geo and I are off to The World’s Longest Garage Sale. Look, I’m buggy-eyed with excitement!!